One year later, Janet Steenburg describes the anguish of losing her children
October 09, 2019 04:56 PM
Janet Steenburg lost her sons Rich and Axel in the Schoharie limousine crash, along with her daughter in law Amy. She shared this statement with News Channel 13.
"This past year has been an outright nightmare that I just cannot seem to wake up from. I sit here and think about all the years I have watched some tragic event unfold on the news and thought my god I feel so bad for those people and yet I am thankful that it wasn’t happening to me, But this time it was me, it was my family. I seem to have way more sleepless nights then I ever did while they were growing up. I spend a lot of time trying to get the events from that day out of my head, yet I am so afraid I will forget my boys if I do. I tend to worry about the future more now I always knew my boys had each other so when my time came they wouldn’t be alone but now I find myself worrying more about my last son and the fact that when my time comes he will be alone. Life could never become normal again when a piece of your heart is missing, it becomes just a motion you go through each day, never truly being happy and never being whole again. They say no one will ever love you as much as your parents and that is a true statement.
I miss my sons and daughter in-law and every day is a new battle just to get through the day. I miss their zest for life and their silly antics and sense of humor. I miss their phone calls/their practical jokes and the sound of their voices. They always had a way of making you laugh; they could tell a story and make you feel like you were right there witnessing the whole thing and were a part of it. Rich was a big-time ball buster, he would meet you and instantly start busting on you, but if he thought he hurt your feelings he would always be the first to apologize. Axel was sweet and always had a smile for everyone, he had a way of making you feel comfortable enough to tell your darkest secrets to him and you never feared him repeating anything ever said. Both boys together were an amazing team they laughed constantly and always made others laugh with them, weather it was busting on someone else or each other, you could not leave their company without a stomach ask from laugh so hard. It kills me every day to know they were robbed of all their plans for this life and we were robbed of them. Rich and his wife were buying a home in November and Axel and Amy were planning on doing some more traveling before starting a family. Rich would often tease Axel and say Ha! Ha! You will be having babies and I will be the one going out having fun while you sit home and change poopy diapers like I did. And then he would laugh and say I may swing by sometimes just to see if you’re doing it right, but then I am going out and he would laugh even harder. Rich was a great dad he would let his daughter practice putting make up on him or nail polish, I can’t even count the times I went to his house and he would answer the door wearing make-up and I would say “do we need to talk is there something you want to tell me and he would laugh and say nope Aubs is practicing again.
Since that day I have always kept busy and focused on things that needed to be done and I try to concentrate on everything else but that, even though it was a constant reality in my life, I tried to focus on other stuff such as the limo laws. When this all first happened all these politicians were all coming on the news saying how they wanted to fix things, so this never happened again? Yet when we had our first meeting with the senate 3 showed up. I must say that Senator Kennedy has been just wonderful and has done a lot of work with the families. The NYS senate passed all our suggestions for sticker laws and yet the assembly did not, they did say that we needed to wait till January to work with them on the laws and from recent conversations I have found that they are proceeding to work on stronger laws, which we as a group we will be involved in." - Janet Steenburg
Updated: October 09, 2019 04:56 PM
Created: October 09, 2019 09:59 AM
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